Many people seem to believe that “GAME” does not exist and it is simply a numbers game and nothing more.
I see it differently. If it was only a numbers game, then it would make no sense to learn anything. The better your game skill-set, lifestyle, and mentality (and much more) then the higher your percentages. For instance, the prettier the girl, the more attention she gets. Same way with self improvement. You become more attractive by enhancing the different aspects of your life such as, fashion, style, lifestyle, inner phycology, looks, fitness etc. Think about it…Can’t every single point mentioned help you become a happier and more attractive person to be around?
This is a question and answer e-mail that i recently had about this issue.
“Hey justin thanks for the video and ive improved and gotten laid twice. however, From my experience and time in the game; Ive learned that women either like you or they dont. I mean, i dont understand how you make women like you. I mean so many women walked away from me when i was talking to them and then some just were not interested and then i had the few that were. Some times all i did was look at them up and down then they would give me eye contact and i would open. They wouldn’t hold my hand back. I would then lean in and ask what perfume their wearing. If she made a awkward gaze i knew she was not interested. My only conclusion is no matter how bold you are or how skilled and flirty you get with women if she does not like you, she just doesnt like you. I feel like the community has told men lies that you can get any woman to like you or that once you learn a method you can get any girl. what is your take Justin? “
Good Analysis. I am a dating coach, I do not endorse all of the original PUA teachings. Some make sense, some are just a fad.
Game DOES help you score with a higher percentage of women if done right. However, There is still a huge element outside of your control. The most you can do is improve yourself and your game (skill set and approach selection). Remember… game is a NUMBERS GAME (things out of your control) vs YOUR GAME ( things in your control). Thus, focus on the things in your control to maximize odds in stranger approaching.
Don’t forget the article i wrote about what “good” game is. I know how it feels like its just a numbers game, thats because you havent been gaming for long. As your game improves over time so will your percentages. Everyones maximum potential may differ depending on different elements such as their General Intelligence, Social Intelligence, Emotional intelligence, mindset, performance ability, personality stereotypes, vibes, style etc.
I would say give it a year or two to truly know your potential.
One thing to note,
I read you talking about many “awkward” interactions you faced. I agree, many of girls will not be comfortable etc. There is a principle behind this…
Many guys view this as “the particular girl is not attracted to me and never will be”. The corrected term is that the girl is not RECEPTIVE at this instance. Receptiveness basically is the reaction a girl gives you on that particular second of that day. It can be for a VARIETY of reasons such as
- she is in a bad mood
- she is totally not in a social mood and it is just to much
- she just came of the phone with her boyfriend,father, friend issue.
- She has to go to the bathroom
- She recently got approached by a creeper.
- She has a 10 page paper to go home and write.
- may not be into you or your stereotype
- may be going through a hard time at work
It goes on and on. This is apart of the “numbers game” (things out of your control). The funny thing is that maybe if you approached her and hr later instead when her mind was clear, she would of been more receptive and thus allow more time for her to become attracted to you and interested in what you have to offer. Same girl, different time.
I remember when there was a hot girl a long time ago walking down the street near my friends store. I tried to stop her and she said “im not interested” and she walked away.I remember 3 weeks later, I saw her walking again in the same area, I stopped her and she was more receptive ( she didn’t even remember that I was the same guy she rejected). We spoke and exchanged numbers and I ended up closing the deal eventually. If I believed I simply “wasn’t her type” then I would of never approached her again.
I understand that THE WAY women meet men really alters the views and attraction for that man. I’ve seen it time and time again. Thats why it’s much easier to get girls through social circle, because you are not coming in at lower value on the street.
That being said, for me, game is not only a numbers game because my percentages are DRAMATICALLY higher than they used to be when I wasn’t getting much lays with hotter girls. And beyond what I’m saying to these girls, my vibe is ever present and girls can feel it, this is what really helps to suck them in. Vibe is a very deep concept, but we all feel it and can sense if from others. The vibe is one thing I know can grow over time like fine wine, when a man slowly grows more confident and comfortable within himself as a sexual being. This can not be done by a mere conscious decision, but it will happen slowly over time as long as you continue talking to women and get more experiences. That’s the difference between a guy who gets a lot of results saying and doing the same thing as they guy who is still struggling. (everything else equal)
Hope this helps.
I get tired of people, who are not very experienced in ‘stranger approaching’ from meet to sex, dictating what Ideal game is.
The Basic Explanation
Stranger Approaching is something that no man should ever rely on. Even with the best ‘Pick Up SKills’, it can still lead to depression if not done right.
Despite my success, I’ve experienced depression while I was getting a lot of girls a few years ago. The main reason is this. No matter how good you are, you will always be ‘treated’ as a stranger, which is not healthy feedback for your mind. You will always fail more than you succeed in stranger approach. This is for reasons sometimes beyond our control.
Therefore, you will never truly feel like a winner if you had to climb mountains to get a girl. Why? because you will always be coming from a place of scarcity if you use the hardest approach to meet women.
The funny thing is, if naturals mostly meet girls in their social circle, then why would people who are not natural try to do stranger approach which is 10 times harder???
Thats why most people never really get good at it. Its not meant for you to get laid every day. It’s merely used to help you become a man of social value to people and actually develop cool social circles.
It came to a point where I would have friends who met women through social circles and they would feel much more confident than me even though i’ve had far more success with women than them!
Why would someone feel more confident than me if I get more girls than them?
Well, thats because in his world, he met girls the safe way. He didn’t go in the streets and failed many times. He didn’t have to hyper-analyse himself to make the ‘perfect’ approach work for the ‘perfect stranger’. All he did was live his life, and met women occasionally through friends and warmer approaches.
Me, on the other had, went out and developed over the top pick-up and seduction skills just to get girls in the most difficult situations like the street. Yes, I was far better with women than him in quality and quantity. However, to get to that stage I endured many mental sufferings.
I am not trying to bash the idea of stranger approaching because it has value when your success rate increases. However, it should be viewed as a ‘niche’ and understood that it is not designed for a man to have true social fulfillment.
So what is there to learn from all of this?
The key is to have a healthy balance between SOCIAL CIRCLE and STRANGER APPROACHING.
Here’s a perfect song for this. Even the LEGEND Jim Morrison from THE DOORS sang about how much it sucks being a stranger when trying to meet people.
P.S. My mission is NOT to be RIGHT, it is to find the TRUTH.
One who seeks the truth will always leave his theory opened for revision…